Relationships and Relationship Abuse (23rd November 2018)
25th November is #WhiteRibbonDay and also marks the beginning of the “16 Days of action against gender-based violence”. So we thought this was a good time to blog about healthy and unhealthy relationships, and where you can get help if you’re suffering any form of relationship abuse.
What is a healthy relationship?
As a young person it can be difficult to know whether a relationship you are in is healthy or not. Healthy relationships are all about respecting each other. You should feel loved, safe and free to be yourself.
Unhealthy or abusive relationships
Relationships can be very confusing and it can be difficult to understand what is and isn’t normal or acceptable behaviour.
The “DISRESPECT NOBODY” campaign has the following advice to help you know whether the way your boyfriend or girlfriend is being abusive or disrespectful:
“Disrespectful and unacceptable behaviour can come in many forms. It isn’t limited to just physical behaviour; it can also go way beyond that. For example, it’s not OK for someone to try and pressure you into sending a nude pic, or to expect the same things to happen that they’ve seen in a porn film. If someone makes you do something you don’t want to, makes you feel scared, intimidated or tries controlling you, it’s not acceptable and is never OK”.
Some people think that relationship abuse is just about violence, or physically forcing somebody to do something they don’t want to. However, abuse comes in many forms and can be emotional, verbal, or financial too. All relationship abuse is serious and is never OK.
You can watch a video about this here: https://youtu.be/V9GjpheIMro
Spotting the Signs and Getting Help
For help “spotting the signs” of relationship abuse, or to find out more about support available if you are in an abusive relationship please visit the “Disrespect NoBody” website.
If you are comfortable talking about these things with your Connexions Personal Adviser then they will also be happy to make sure you are put in contact with people or organisations that can give you the support and advice you need.
If you are 19 or younger and are concerned about your relationship please call Childline on 0800 1111 (Freephone)
If you’re male and would take the White Ribbon Day pledge “never to commit, excuse or remain silent about male violence against women” you can do so at www.whiteribbon.org.uk/pledge
If you, or someone you know, are in immediate danger ALWAYS call 999.